E-Wise @ Sharing Sessions         Relationships  

When we realize that the average healthy brain has more than a hundred billion neurons bouncing about within our bodies, it makes sense that perhaps holding together a long term, healthy relationship can at the best of times be difficult.

Women may be from Venus and men from Mars, but we still meet up here on Earth and use the billions of neurons to tell us what is right or wrong for each of us. When Nobert Wiener invented the process, we call "cybernetics" little did he realize that Dr. Maxwell Maltz and others after him would turn the mathematical process onto the human being and call it Human Cybernetics. Learning to use our feedback devices help us in many ways to understand our part in a relationship. A good part of a winning relationship can be had in learning how to make your "energy force" work with and for You. That is your sympathetic, passionate and caring systems. Insight and behavioural change are not easy, but it is often worthwhile for we cannot change others but we can change ourselves.

We deserve the best, but the rules of the game in relationship building are vast and confusing. And we are not alone, today only three out of ten soul mate relationships survive. Too many are not willing to offer self change. Sometime it is the pressures of career and/or financial stress. Seldom is it a case of personalities not working out, for we attract that of which we desire. When we look at who we attract and why, we can then begin to alter our energy forces of attraction. Successful, long term relationships require many different kinds of energy, mindfulness and sharing activity.

Keeping the mystery of relationship building in mind, it is very important to reflect on the spiritual side of relationships. Remembering how important it is that we get what we want in a healthy relationship, it pays us well be reflect often on what it is that makes our partner get what they want in our love sharing at all levels. We are not saints, but we are always on a spiritual journey hidden inside our mortal bodies. The conflict between the body, mind and spirit in reality is quite open and visible to those we love. Which is why one of the master keys to a successful relationship is open and honest daily communication. Easily said, not so easily done as we know even from our family and friends.